Next Top Spiritual Author – Scott Brandon Hoffman

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Every once in a while do you get an urge to do something that you KNOW you’ll regret later?  Maybe something a little ridiculous, or even a LOT ridiculous?  My thought is that most of us take life way too seriously and need to enjoy the moment.  And this blog, in fact this video in particular, is exactly about one such moment.  My friend Pat McIntosh and I wanted to promote our friend and mentor for a book award.  In fact he is being considered for the honor of the “Next Top Spiritual Author”.  This is a situation where the public  goes online and votes for an author.

So Pat and I couldn’t pass up the opportunity to give ol’ Scott a helping hand!  You see, you’ve just got to know that Scott Brandon Hoffman is not like most spiritual book authors.  The first thing is he’s a comedian; and a wacky one – just the kind I think RULES!  Sure he hangs out with Deepak Chopra, but he also hangs out with Gary Vaynerchuk, and entertainment types in Hollywood… you get the idea.

To get a real idea of Scott, you need to visit http://HumanSuitBook.com and watch his book trailer.  Incidentally, while you’re there, vote for him.  Really, please vote for him.

So Pat and I decided we’d pull one on Scott.  If you just watched the book trailer, you know that one of Scott’s favorite self-descriptions is, “It’s like Oprah and Letterman had a kid”.   So here’s the little video that Pat and I did to promote our buddy.  See what you think.  And next time you get that inkling to do something ridiculous, go ahead and do it.  And if you really want to live on the edge, post it on your blog for the world to see!  Here’s the video.

No Worries Kids!

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Do you remember the simple days?  You know, when you were a kid and the biggest challenge you faced was whether you could get in 10 more minutes of playing with your friends before your mom called you in for supper?  THOSE were the days my friend.  And somehow that supper always seemed like a feast!  Unless there was spinach or broccoli, and then it was torture.  But usually it was fantastic!  So my question to you is why is it any different now?

Sure you’ve got a mortgage, maybe some kids of your own, and other payments to make.  So you go to work or earn money somehow to pay that.  But really, what makes our lives seem so different now?  Why does everything seem so busy, so important?  It could be that you’re not living life on your own terms.  So what you’re doing is modeling your entire life after the 10 minutes surrounding when your mom would call you in for supper!

Maybe, just maybe, you ought to think about what made the other 23 hours and 50 minutes of life so great when you were a kid.  I don’t mean to sound simplistic.  The fact is that there are pressures on us as adults, parents, employees and contributing members of society.  I’m not suggesting that you become reckless or irresponsible, quite the contrary.  What I recommend is that you reach back into your memory and explore how it felt to be carefree as a kid.  Then with that feeling in mind, look for times during the day that you can return to that feeling of “no worries”.

Some people might point out that this is just meditation.  Well, that’s fine with me.  And if I’m lucky, somebody’s going to call me in for supper too!

Effective Leadership: Character Is Required for Effective Leadership

Effective leadership is not an accident; rather it is the result of carefully culturing the qualities of leadership into your own personality and ethos. Character is one such quality, and it’s a biggie. I don’t have to remind you of the Enron scandal and the mortgage and banking debacles. Character is the guts to go with your convictions. Character is the true heart of authenticity and being real. Because character is all about whom you are, and what you stand for.

In The 21 Indispensable Qualities of a Leader, John C. Maxwell explains that character is at the heart of our development as human beings, not just as leaders. Each day we make hundreds of choices, and some are at the crossroads of character and compromise. And each time we choose character, regardless of the consequence or reward, we grow deeper and stronger as people and leaders.

Maxwell suggests that there are four things everyone should bear in mind about character:

  • Character Is More than Talk – Character runs at the core of our personality. He suggests that it determines who we are, which dictates what we see, which results in what we do. So character is at the heart of intention and action. It just doesn’t go deeper than that.
  • Talent Is a Gift, but Character Is a Choice – Maxwell tells us that character is not something we are born with; rather it is created through the choices we make. And I would add that the choices we make are created through the character we have chosen. The fact that we can chose to have sterling character is great. In fact, if you think about it, it’s downright empowering if you want to provide effective leadership.
  • Character Brings Lasting Success with People – Nobody wants to follow a leader who is flawed. Think of Bill Clinton and the Intern Scandal. It’s not like he killed someone, or necessarily ruined anyone’s life. But he lied to the public. And that was a choice he made at the crossroads of character and compromise. That compromise cost him a lot of leadership effectiveness.
  • Leaders Cannot Rise Above the Limitations of Their Character - Maxwell also tells us that weak character carries a high price. He cites The Success Syndrome by Steven Berglas, a Harvard Medical School psychologist whose work suggests that character is a foundational trait. The stronger the foundation, the higher a person can rise. But when the person reaches the limits of that foundation they will suffer from one of 4 “A’s”: Arrogance, feelings of aloneness, unhealthy adventure-seeking, and adultery. These are the signs that a person has pushed beyond the ability of their character. I can think of a few governors and a senator who have had one of those problems in the past few years. What a cost!

Effective leadership requires a strong foundation of character, so how is your character? Maxwell suggests four things to do to improve it.  First, look for the cracks. Write down the recent choices you’ve made and whether or not you’ve compromised on what you know is right, or what you said you’d do. Second, identify any patterns in those compromises. Look for clues about your weaknesses by identifying patterns. Third, own the fault. You made the choices, so now you can follow through by apologizing, to yourself if nobody else was involved, or to others who were affected. This is a soul cleansing action. Now that you have a clean slate, the fourth action is to start rebuilding. Maxwell recommends creating a plan that will prevent any further compromises in your convictions.

And just so you know, I’ll be making my own plan too. Making compromises is human. We all do it. Owning up to them and doing something to prevent them in the future is a sign of true character! Keep building your character and providing effective leadership.

Purpose for Life: What is it You Really Want?

What is your purpose for life; what is it you really want?  Is that what you’re doing with your life?  I think that I’m like a lot of other people; I grew up wanting things.  I wanted the newest toys when I was a child; I wanted the things that other kids had.  And when I was older I wanted a car.  I wanted clothes like others had, later a cool job, a beautiful wife, a great house, and so on.  I learned that money got me some of the things I liked, so I wanted money.  And like other people sometimes I got what I wanted and sometimes I didn’t.  But there was a catch to it all.

Usually, in fact almost always, two things happened when I got what I wanted.  My interest in what I wanted diminished significantly once I got it, and always something else came up that I wanted and the whole cycle of “want and get” started over.  And this cycle continued year after year.

At some point, if you’re lucky, you realize that wanting and getting are tremendous drains on your energy.  And you begin to realize that there some things that you’d much rather have or that you’d passionately prefer to be doing with your life than “wanting and getting.”  And if you’re like me, that’s when you realize that you’re locked in financially to a “wanting and getting” system you’ve created; to high paying jobs you don’t like, but that you’ve struggled to get to pay for “wanting and getting.”  And you are trapped and begin a slow process of escaping the trap to live the real life you actually do want.

I wonder if a lot of people just stay right there.  Or do they break free and change their direction?  A film called “God and the Chocolate Ice Cream” by Nic Askew deals with wanting and getting.  It uses an analogy of a visit to the bookstore.  You pick out a stack of books that you want.  Then sort them.  First there are the ones you decide “no” you really don’t want much, then the ones that, “yes” you passionately do want, and the rest are those that “maybe” you want.  The question is, what do you do with the three stacks of books?

Do you say “yes” to the “yes” stack, “no” to the “no” stack and “no” to the “maybe” stack?  Or do you say “no” to your “yes” books, “yes” to your “no” books, and “yes & no” to your “maybe” books?  Or just “maybe” to all of them?  If you say “no” to your “yes” then are you denying yourself your passions?  If you say “yes” to your “no” are you stuck in a rat race of want and get?

So I ask you, in your life, and in your business, are you aligned with your purpose for life?  Or are you denying your passions and working for something that you really don’t want?  Life is short.  I say follow your passions.  Don’t spend your energy and your life struggling to get what you really don’t want and to become who you really are not!